Before you start reading, I want to disclose that this post will be longer then most. I am sharing my personal teen mom experience. I want to be as detailed as possible so that anyone who is reading can understand exactly what I went through as a Teen Mom. This is my Teen Mom story.

Raising Jay & Abel

I was 16 years old when I became a mother.

“A baby having a baby” is what I heard at the time. Indeed that was true, I was just a baby but I’m not anymore. I’m hear to speak for all the Teen Moms who don’t have their stories shared on TV. The Teen Moms who don’t have the ability to sit and write because they are too busy going to school or work.  I am hear to speak for the Teen Moms who are shamed for being Teen Moms. I am hear to be their voice.

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Becoming a mother at 16 was not my plan, no, not at all.

I carried my baby to term and gave birth to a child to who you now know as, Jayden. When I tell my story, I tend to fast forward through the difficult parts because it is hard for me to relive. The reality of it is, getting to where I am now, has been a difficult path.

When I had Jayden, I was left with a decision, either go back to school or go to work. Thankfully, with the help of my family, I went back to school seven weeks after having Jayden. I did not want to become another statistic shared to adults in college. No, no, no. That was not going to happen to me.

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Where I live, there are organizations that are set up to help teen moms and one of those was called the Young Parent Program. My first day of Grade 11 was different then most teens. Instead of coming to school and comparing my class schedule with my friends, I rolled in with a seven week old baby in a stroller, looking for a friendly face.

Highschool was not easy for me.

My school day consisted of dropping Jayden off at daycare, going to my classes, and once the bell rang, I would head straight to the daycare to pick him up and go home. My mom was a single mother of three children who worked late, so  most of the time I took the bus and skytrain to and from school.

At first, it was extremely difficult for me. I had to drop off my newborn baby to a daycare full of strangers so that I could graduate on time. But, as time went on, it got easier and I eventually started working part time.

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My everyday life.

As I continue to write this, I find myself leaving out important parts. Staying strong for my baby was something that I never thought I would have to do. I was naive. I received many disapproving looks, I was called many derogatory names from people who I never met. Even now, as I walk through the mall with Jayden AND Abel I get asked personal questions like “do they have the same dad”, “how old are you”, “are you married”, “do the dads help” “are the dads around” and “are you the babysitter?”.

These questions really infuriate me.

Not only are these questions extremely inappropriate to ask any mother, it is none of your business. What makes it ok to ask a teen mom or even a young mom these questions? Is it because of our age? Do we seem so completely stupid that we don’t have the right to deserve the same respect ? The answer. NO.

We, and I say WE because there are plenty of us in the lower mainland, do not deserve this disrespect.  If you are not part of our family or even a close friend, do not ask these questions about being a Teen Mom.

I was voted the valedictorian of the Young Parent Program in 2009.

Though I was not named valedictorian of my entire highschool, being voted as the valedictorian of the YPP program gave me the same feeling. I worked by ass of in highschool, from early mornings and late nights, to taking summer courses, I was determined to graduate the year I was supposed too. That year was 2009. I missed seven weeks of school in total after giving birth to Jayden (and not even, because I had a tutor come drop of my school work while I was at home).

When I was in school, all I could think about was providing for my son and making sure that his future was better then mine.

It’s been 10 years since I found I was pregnant with Jayden.

In 10 years, I’ve learned a lot about myself and have grown into this person that I am slowly becoming happy with. I have years of abuse, hardships and tons of stories to share. The most important is my Teen Mom story.

I was going through a dark path before having Jayden. If it wasn’t for him, I can’t say for sure that I would be as motivated and driven as I am now.

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Our relationship is different then most.

My heart bleeds but also beats for Jay. My eyes start to tear up when I think about the little baby I was pushing in that stroller and then when I look at him now….. he is strong. My baby has grown up to be so loyal, responsible, smart, caring, loving, and independent. I know he doesn’t remember but he acknowledges what I’ve done for him.

My hope is to inspire other teen moms to continue living for their dream and their children. My hope is that the community around us takes the children we are raising into consideration. My hope is that society becomes aware that with help and encouragement, more teen mothers will finish school and become successful.

These are my hopes and dreams. I am not ashamed of being a teen mother, I am proud.

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Necklace: Mint & Birch

Diaper Bag: Fawn Design

Photography: Julie Christine Photography

 

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  • Lindsey Lyons

    This is SUCH an awesome post. Thank you for sharing your story!

  • Rachel Loza

    Girl, you are SO strong! Then again, aren’t all mothers?? Way to kick ass and prove all those people wrong! Seriously ALL of those questions should be inappropriate for ALL mothers!! UGH! People! Will they ever learn!?

  • I was so touched by your post! You go girl. I am so happy things are working out well after all of your hard work.

  • wow girl what a great post! so happy you were able to get everything done! way to be a great inspiration to us all!

  • Kristin

    So glad that I finally had time to read this one. I think it’s truly insprigin how determined you were to graduate on time. Amazing story girl!

  • Raising Twincesses

    I’m so happy that you were able to continue and finish your schooling, you’re such a hard worker! Your story is so inspiring Momma!

  • Reading this makes me so proud that you took the path that you did. You had your baby, you went to school, you do your best to love your kids. I’m so happy you had a good support system. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Thanks for sharing your beautiful story!

  • Shani Ogden

    I loved reading your story. Thank you for sharing it. 🙂

  • I loved reading this! You are so beautiful all around and those boys are blessed to have you.

    I think of all my students who were teen moms and how many of them wouldn’t have dropped out if we had some kind of daycare program for them. I’m so thankful you had that!

  • Esther

    Beautiful story. You are so strong and a great example to young mothers every where. Everything truly happens for a reason

  • Tineke F

    Thanks for sharing this girl, so so inspiring! Your commitment To finishing school on time is very admirable. True girl power!!

  • Patricia

    You continue to inspire me. I’m very glad you shared and that you know the truth…you’re an absolutely incredible mom!

  • erin d

    I love this post! I wasn’t as young as you, but I was 21….and I still got the looks, the questions, the “are you really keeping him”….called names. I was made to feel embarrassed for becoming a mother.
    You are definitely inspiring, and I love that you are sharing your story. And our boys are close in age, and both named Jayden. 🙂 My son just turned 12.

  • Sarah Rasmussen

    Beautiful story! You are one strong mama! Thanks for sharing your inspirational thoughts. 🙂

  • Erica Nicole

    I love your ambition and determination. From the beginning, you were an incredible mother and still are today!

  • Erin Bachman

    You are so brave and so inspiring for sharing this! I’ll never understand why people think it’s okay to ask strangers such personal questions! You are so strong and so amazing mama!

  • Kristy

    I couldn’t imagine having to go back to work after 7 weeks, let alone back to high school. I’m so happy that there are resources out there for teen moms, as you know being a product of a teen mom it didn’t really exist ALL those many years ago when i was born (yup, old lol!) Keep writing, and keep on sharing, and having met Jayden in person I can attest to everything you’ve described. xoxo

  • Dawnene Law

    You’re so brave to share your story. I can’t believe the tthings people say sometimes. You’re amazing ❤